Tuesday, July 1, 2008

My Anniversary

My anniversary is on Thursday. 9 years of marriage. I can’t believe it. I honestly can’t. No one in my family has been married this long, and it really isn’t that long. It still seems like just yesterday we “tied the knot” to each other, although I will be the first to admit that as time passes, the easier marriage becomes. I guess it’s because we mature spiritually and, in turn, our marriage matures.

I can remember some of our earlier years, and they sure weren’t pretty. In fact, they were pretty ugly. On both of our parts, not just mine. I’m glad, though, that we’ve stuck together, committed to making our marriage work NO MATTER WHAT! We both come from divorced homes for various reasons and neither wants that for our kids. At the same time, we don’t want to stay together for our kids. No, we have a higher authority Who calls us to remain committed to each other, our children, and Him. I am thankful that we both agree to this calling because I think that is where so many families struggle- only one person is committed to the preservation of the relationship so it falls apart despite the best efforts and intentions. I also think too many people use divorce as the “easy way out” because I know, I’ve been there. I’ve been angry at TJ plenty of times, and he’s been angry at me, and in the beginning, before our strengthened relationship with the Lord, divorce sounded pretty good. Separating is easier than taking the hard road and accepting responsibility, asking for forgiveness, and making changes. But, as I’ve learned in many areas of my life, taking the hard road now makes it easier later. Of course I still have my flaws, and TJ still has his, but “love covers all sins” (Proverbs 10:12) so as best we can, we overlook them and keep going.

We have no plans for our anniversary. Our town is having their annual 4th of July fireworks on Thursday night, so we’ll be there with the kiddos. Friday is the 4th but TJ won’t do anything that night because all the drunks are out on the road. Perhaps Saturday we can get a sitter lined up, although it is sort of late notice. I really want to try this restaurant in Charlotte called the Melting Pot, but I think we need reservations to go; I’m not sure. I also don’t know if they serve entrees or only dessert. There is another restaurant in Charlotte that I want to try called The Cheesecake Factory. I know that restaurant serves both entrees and desserts. If you’ve ever been to either (not necessarily in Charlotte), let me know your suggestions. Whenever we do get our date night, I really want to go somewhere different.

*I am thankful the Lord brought TJ into my life. Our personalities compliment each other well, and we have learned to work together as a team.*